Ask For Help

My mental health has taken a down turn over the past few weeks, and I have let my anxiety get the best of me.  I have let it fester beneath my chest rather than showing it any comfort.  When you let these feelings fester for much longer than you should, they become darker, they become deeper rooted in your mind, body and soul.  The anxiety turns to depression and although you’re aware that you should be doing something to help yourself get back up and shake things off, it feels as if you are being pushed further into this pit and that the darkness is weighing you down.   You truly feel trapped. Continue reading “Ask For Help”

So… I Guess I’m Flaky.

What people may not know about me is that I can be pretty unreliable at times.  Not at times of actual importance, but during day-to-day life.  My anxiety can come and go, and when it goes (which is very rare!) I am more socially brave.  I’ll make appointments or make plans with someone, then when the times comes to follow through with said plans I desperately wish for the other person to cancel or hope something else will ruin them.  So yes, I am a bit flaky.  Continue reading “So… I Guess I’m Flaky.”

Take it as a Compliment.

Recently I came across a video on Facebook  posted by BBC – The Social portraying a woman who had received a note from a male stranger while on public transport, which read, “You should smile more…a face as pretty as yours was not made to frown.”  This was after he allegedly kept glancing her over which was clearly making her uncomfortable. Although the authenticity of the video has been questioned the message within it is still valid.

In this video she attempts to warn other males that this may not be an ideal way to approach anyone, as some people may be very uncomfortable by this type of attention.  However, the video in itself wasn’t the problem.  The problem was the content of the comments.  Many people were telling her that she was “pathetic” and that she was “over-reacting“, while others where saying that she should just “take it as a compliment.”  These people, who were commenting some horrendous things either fail to realise that this type of attention is damaging to some people or simply just don’t care and they may even belive we should stop complaining and just “take the compliment“.  I for one, do not believe this is acceptable.

As a woman, I have frequently been told that I should smile more when out and about and every time was by a complete stranger who also happened to be male.  If this is a way to cheer us up, then surely it would be more affective to actually ask us what’s wrong, rather than tell us to change our facial expressions to suit them.  I am a long-term sufferer of Social Anxiety and this type of unwanted attention can ruin my entire day and back-track any progress I have made.  There will be people out there that would love to receive a note like this and think it’s a nice thing to do for someone, but you don’t know why that person may be frowning.  They may have recently lost someone they love,  or their home or perhaps like me suffer from mental health issues.  One thing for sure is that we DO NOT  have to “take it as a compliment.”  If anything makes you uncomfortable then it’s the other person that needs to change.  We are not “pathetic” and we are not “over-reacting.”  These things do matter.  #ThinkFirst